New Girl in Town

Whether it was moving to a new city, joining a new organization or starting a new job, we have all been the “new girl in town” at one point or another in our lives. Some women thrive in these types of scenarios, but I’m willing to bet, no matter how social or outgoing one may be, you have felt the inevitable insecurities of being out of your comfort zone.

Alexis Reliford shares her story of her personal journey and how she overcame the fears that once prevented her from feeling at ease with herself and her new life. Who would have thought that “giving up” could be just the thing she needed to find herself and gain courage and confidence as she settles into a new city.

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6 responses to “New Girl in Town”

  1. Anita R. says:

    The New Girl in Town issue doesn’t go away after a couple of years in the work world either. Twenty-six years after graduation I took a new job that moved me to a new state and city. The need to find a community and fit in still applies.

    I look for a church family to join, the book discussion through the library, and local volunteer opportunities. I miss my investment club, bridge games, and my old neighbor (the new one is a funeral home and two empty houses).

    My sorority sisters and involvement in ASA are constants.

  2. Chiquita C. says:

    I can’t really relate to the new girl in town syndrome. I find I am at my best in newer situations. Unlike the author of this article, I moved back to my home town. It is a small town where no one sees who you have grown to become but only who you were. I would welcome the chance to have a clean slate and be defined by who I am. I loved the environment of starting my job with Mississippi State University and not knowing anyone. I love going some place new and meeting new people. I may not know anyone when I get there but I will when I leave.

  3. Melissa S. says:

    I agree, Anita R. I moved to Los Angeles three years ago for my husband’s job. I am a practice manager for a software consulting company, so I can work from any city with a major airport and work from home when I don’t travel. I changed schools every two years until I graduated from high school, moved to Dallas after finishing college in San Antonio, always making friends easily. But in this stage of my life, it feels harder than ever. Either people have kids and are in the mom groups or, in LA, people just have walls up.

    I’ve gone to lunch meetups with women and joined a workout Facebook group for this methodology I found I like, I’ve also just tried meet girls at fitness studios where I was successful making friends in Dallas. It’s slow going, but I had 13 girls at my girl’s gift exchange party this year, so it’s working.

    My sisters are tried and true friends and have come out to Los Angeles for a girls weekend a year ago, wherever I am, my core sisters will be my friends no matter where I go or what I do.

  4. Nikki K. says:

    I can 100% relate to the author. When I first moved to Baltimore where the ONLY person I knew was my new boss. I had a very rough transition since I had to find an apartment, move, and find my own groove. Working in the restaurant with crazy hours didn’t help either. I learned to enjoy time on my own, being quietly confident with myself and learn to stand on my own.

    I think the author of the article doesn’t quite articulate how challenging it can be for even the most confident of women moving to a new area can be when you don’t have the normal resources available to you.

  5. Chayna W. says:

    Though I personally have never been the new girl in town, I have seen women who I have befriended that have walked in her shoes (stilettos of course!) Those women looked like they were fish out of water and they were searching for air. I know that it was hard for them but once they found their “tribe” they were once again swimming happily in their personal pond.

  6. Leslie L. says:

    I agree with the first poster (Anita) who said that new girl syndrome doesn’t go away after high school or college. I’m somewhat of an introvert but there’s usually an outgoing person in every large group of people. Some of my favorite sisters are extroverts that I have met over the past three years. Be yourself and the right people will fit into your life.

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